Hi Myrrh, thanks for the input....I'll hang on your thread too! beating this thing together sounds great to me. an OP certainly challenges detaching....sometimes the urge to rush in physically swinging is there! I so appreciate your encouragement. I know what you mean about the ASSumptions...they can sure trip us up...I hope and pray and want to trust that H is being upfront about not seeing the OW, but I'm afraid.... although I have to say, against my better judgement somewhat, i'm starting to think maybe he is telling the truth this time....something is just "different", I cant put my finger on it, except that he is a lousy liar, and gets a "crinkly" look around his mouth and eyes when he's being untruthful, (I've know this guy for 27 years) and it isn't there now. He's not aware of this expression, so I don't believe he has control over it.
It was interesting last night at S's religion class, poor kid saw OW, I didnt except as I walked by her car in parking lot. S said she smiled at him, S gave her a dirty look and then she stopped smiling, but commented it was "kind of a sad smile, a "you're my friend arent you smile" and not the silly smirk she has when she's been with Dad". I was shocked, and said "what, you can tell when they've been together?", and S said "well yeah, sure, she gets this goofy silly smirk". Blew my mind. S is too perceptive for his own good.
