I read "the novel," too, and I have a lot of the same problems as you do with DB/DRing. I tend to pursue and be clingy and dependent. I have gotten better, but it is definitely a process. I am going to hang around your thread and we can beat this thing together!
My goal is to detach, detach, detach! My H has been coming home at nights...but I see the need to not ASSume he will continue to do so. No calls or asking if he is! Just do my thing when I come home from work, and let the chips fall where they may!
My H had an OW as well, but that is over now (as far as I know). I understand where you are coming from with that part - detachment almost kills you when someone else is involved. But you are doing GRRRReat! Keep it up! Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
