Pho's thread- solving problems

[Uphill]

Pho, I was just catching up a bit here and wanted to let you know I deal with the alienation blame also. In my sitch, XF has a family who is only around when they need something. She got fed up with it years ago after seeing how my family was. She opened her eyes and quit talking to almost every one of them. Her choice to do that, not mine. I supported her either way because on one hand it IS her family, but on the other they WERE using her. I left it totally up to her and now lately she says how I pushed her family away and didn't approve of them. I kindly asked her if she is spending more time with them now? She has had 6 months without me to "reconnect". Nope. No effort on her part so that tells me she just has nothing better to complain about when that comes up.