Don't know what to do anymore...

[Painter]

Trumpet, thank you for your openness and insight. I think you may be onto something.

H's father was an alcoholic and verbally - I don't know if abusive is the right word, but he cursed and ranted, much like H does. H has told me that he remembers his parents argue loudly and he would go hide in his room. Which makes it so baffling to me that he would do it himself...

My father was an alcoholic, but he was not aggressive and I have made different choices (luckily I had a good therapist).

H has only seen the MC (and another one we saw previously, as well as one years ago with his exW), and doesn't 'believe in counseling' (even though he liked all the counselors). Unless he wants to do something differently, it really doesn't matter what I think.

I have asked him many times to express his thoughts and emotions, but he has a hard time with it. He has some interesting views on relationships... but yes, not being clear or saying how he feels or what he wants, then feeling victimized or angry. After the A, he was talking for a while about how he wasn't going to take it anymore, that he was going to stand up for himself. I don't know what that was all about, except that he clearly doesn't feel like he is expressing himself.

He's a complicated person. There are many things there that makes me scratch my head.