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[Azzork]

I will not give up but there are some moments in which the despondency is suffocating.

So what are you doing to fill this void in your life?

[gonegrl]

Just want to add my support and friendship, Mutatio. I am learning from you and from all the wonderful advice you are getting. Stay strong.

Sadly, I think it is these feelings of detachment that are our best chance of losing our spouses, and also our best chances of getting them back. You know the whole concept of the left behind spouse becoming the walk away? I think that happens a lot. Not to say you would do that, but at some point, you don't know what is in your future.

Stay strong. Is there something you can do for fun today, something just for you? Maybe for S too, that would count I think.

[vise82]

Hey Mutatio,

I am in the same sit as you, just like you have said on my thread. I have been feeling the same as you, questioning why I am fighting for this W that does not want me. May we both get through this feeling, to the other side.

[Vanilla]

Hugs

V

[mutatio]

Thank you Vise, I appreciate your support. We are sharing a similar experiences with our wifes.

Vanilla thank you for the hug. I have not hugged a woman in a very long time.

Good question Azzork-"So what are you doing to fill this void in your life?" The void must have always be there. I didn't even realize that until your question gave me pause. I don't notice because with work, school and GAL activities I am thoroughly distracted. It is in those quiet reflective moments that I sense the loss of hope and courage. I am now aware of it now and understand what is happening. I will experience the emotions, acknowledge the feeling and then let go of it. It works with anger so it should work in this application.

pho-""You know the whole concept of the left behind spouse becoming the walk away? I am waiting for this moment. I just hope it comes.

I miss being married, sharing a life with someone, holding hands, getting a hug, waking up together and all the little things that one shares on a daily basis.

[Vanilla]

Mutatio,

I absolutely guarantee it won't be long before you get those hugs and it won't the motherly V type hugs either!

How are we doing on the letter?

More, more, more,

Big hugs

V

[mutatio]

Thank you for the kindness Vanilla. Your cyber hugs do give me comfort. I have been working the last 2 weeks on a big presentation for tomorrow so please forgive me for asking, what letter? I sure I wanted to write a letter but what it was escapes me. I have found that being so stressed emotional has affected my memory.

[Vanilla]

Sweetheart give yourself space and time to take care of you. I would love to send your favourite screen icon to give you a hug. Who is that by the way?

When you are rested and easier then it we can make space and time to chat about L.

Rest easy, it's ok.

I am ok and I hope we are good?

V

[mutatio]

We are good V, I'm always happy to see you've posted on my thread. We are good.

[Mona52]

Hi mutatio,

This thought helps me when I think there is no way I will ever figure out how to pull away from H.

Before H I was in love. 7 years in love with my high school sweet heart.

Now he is just someone I used to know.

I am not saying ditch the W. I am just saying if you choose, you will be able to add W to the category of someone you used to know. You are in complete control over that.