I'm a little calmer now, gonna sleep on what to do/say. did some research on the net, I'm shocked at how common it is. guess I'll need to base some of what I do on what type it is. I hate to let lose with both barrels of heavy artillery since it is possible H& I both have had it for years. We both had other partners before we were married. It's sure possible OW got more than she bargained for.