One day, Joe's wife starts yelling at Joe. Joe says, I feel very disrespected when spoken to that way. I agree these things need to be done, but if I'm asked that way, I will not help with this. If you'd like my help though, please speak to me respectfully and I will try to help if I am able to. Here Joe's w LOST her ability to disrespect Joe to his face and one of her complaints against him.
This is great!
Vise, here's how I see the whole "wait a while and then do what she wants" thing. Ignoring her and then doing it later, tells her NOTHING, except you finally did what you were told! Ignoring these type of issues is not the way to handle it. How the H addresses it will determine the results. You go face her (don't yell from another room) and address this to her. With a lowered tone of voice, calmly tell her something similar to the story above. Speak with confidence. That's the kind of man only a fool would leave.
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I felt like she thinks am her employee and she is my boss.
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She does something then leaves part of it for me to finish. Why wont she just follow through and complete the job?
Why? B/c she knows you'll finish it for her.
So, why not make this a boundary? "I will no longer complete W's unfinished work". "If she continues to tell me to finish the job she started, then I will ____________".
Last edited by sandi2; 11/18/1506:16 PM.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
