We also have MC tomorrow night and I am dreading it. Overall the sessions have been going better, but in the last session H seemed really agitated over the fact that I don't like biking. With the same intensity as if I didn't like sex, or something serious. Funny thing is, it has probably been a year since H got on his bike, so wtf is he even talking about? And even then, he has a couple of guy friends who he used to bike with, can't that be his guy thing?
Is H asking for you to spend quality time with him? I don't know just curious? What do feel about it?
Jelly, H has not asked to spend time with me. It came up in MC, the counselor asked what we could do together. I mentioned dinners out, hiking, wineries, etc. H just defaulted to "she won't bike." So counselor would say "Ok, biking is out, how about hiking, dinners, what else?" I would bring up something else, and H would say "She won't even try biking." That type of conversation. Finally the counselor said "how about hiking, dinners, etc?" And H said "I am actually too tired on weekends, we could just watch tv." And counselor said ok, watch tv. So now I have a tv buddy.
I will correct myself to add that H did actually ask for my attention in other ways- during MC, he mentioned that he wants me to sit with him while he works and show interest in his work, and also assist him when he does home improvement projects. So there is that. I have been doing that more.
