Hi RD, I think you will find that you have come a long way already. Do you feel all better? No. Do many of us? No. However, we do share an appreciation of the many blessings in our lives I think....despite what our spouses may be doing.

The thing to remember is our progress isn't linear. If we plotted our recovery on a graph, it would look like a pensions growth chart I saw recently - zigzagging all over the place, but with a general upwards movement. That's us too I think...

If you want to take a break, then I agree with Pink - go for it, but don't go for ever. Take a break and see how it feels. Also, I would love to see RD with a new interest just for him. Not a family thing, or dating, but somewhere you have a laugh and a chat with friends.

Good luck to you my friend xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus