Can I ask why you ignored the list? What was on it? Was it stuff you use to do? Stuff you never did? Stuff for the W? Stuff for the house? Also, I think ignoring a request can come across as passive aggressive. Did you not like the way she asked? If that's the problem, you can say something like you feel it's disrespectful to be spoken to that way and you will not do anything if requested in a disrespectful manner (I'm not saying to do this, just putting some options out there.) Also, not everything has to be a battle. Have you spoken to a coach yet?
