Wayward Wife, my addiction, advice needed

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OK, update time.

Wife has agreed to meet with pastor/counselor on Friday evening for an hour. It was done by text, and she didn't want to talk to me about it... strange, but possibly the shame of the EA is setting in?

Don't know if she's still talking with OM at work, but it's still a possibility. Therefore, I need some advice.

At this first meeting, I need to set a boundary on NC with OM. Our pastor has told her she must anyway, so she'll still be in the fog of the EA and we'll be in MC at the same time, but maybe the fog won't stay too long if someone else is telling her to wise up. Anyway, I'm thinking the boundary on NC involves the letter, approved by me, and sent in the mail. She's still Facebook Friends with OM, so contact is just a keyboard stroke away.

What does a good NC letter look like? What would I need to edit or look for before she sends it? This boundary is for the rest of her life, correct? Any examples or links out there?

Let me know - I know I can't just start dropping bombs in the MC session, but the big goal would be to get the NC letter written by my wife and make sure the withdrawl from the EA has really started. Thanks!