I put a 180 into play in our car-buying effort, thanks to input from earlier posts from Underdog and Rottzilla! kind of an expensive way to get a chance to do a 180, but at least I took advantage of it!
What I did was back way off and let H do the bargaining/signing/deciding/etc. I know he sees me as controlling, and that is an issue for him. I can recognize that I have really always been the take charge person in doing this kind of stuff....so, I did "behind the scenes" stuff, like calling the bank and finding out which dealers had models on hand he was interested in, and then backed off pretty much completely and let him handle it....i even let him decide how to title it (so he's the one that had it put in both our names). when questions came up, I would just look at him or ask "what do you think is best?"....THAT IS SO 180'ish for me.....really felt strange.
It will be interesting to see if any results come from this or what might, but I know he had to have noticed, because it is so out of character for me. I need to look for more opportunities to be less controlling, I guess.
Thanks, Underdog and Rotzilla, if you see this, for helping me be aware of this! as I think BoldnBeautiful or nitaf said, we gotta use every weapon in our arsenal....
