I wont ask for a second chance. I will use the time I have now to show her that I am a guy she would be crazy to leave. That's how I get my second chance through my actions. I have to do whats best for me and the kids.
Well, good for you!
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Now does anyone know if she will openly reveal that she is looking for a OM or will this be a secrete thing that WW will pursue? The only reason I can think they want to not let the LBS know is to keep him as plan B, enjoy the security of having him around. Is she looking for OM to help her get out of our sit. because money wise its going to be tough to even just pay for the S agreement.
Plan B is correct. She probably won't share it openly, but she may tell her BFF.
I doubt seriously she's looking for OM to help her out of your sitch. The WW is looking for the thrill she gets from a secret affair. When the best man doesn't work out, she'll move on to another man. She is addicted to the thrill she gets of a new romance, even if it never becomes a PA.
I just copied this to another poster, so I guess it's on my mind. I believe if you'll drop the rope, while you are in-house separated, it could cause her to at least become curious about you and want to know about what you're doing.
Imagine having a rope in your hand and the other end of that rope was tied around the waist of your W. You do not want her to leave you. You are fighting for your M. So, she is pulling with all her might to get free of you. She wants out of this R! The harder she pulls forward to get away.....the harder you hold back on the rope. You have both of your heels buried into the ground and both hands in a death grip on that rope. Do you have that picture in your mind? Okay, what would happen if suddenly you dropped that rope?
She is pulling so hard with her head looking forward......that when you drop the rope....she will nearly fall over! Suddenly she is free....nothing is holding her back! She stumbles and tries to get her balance. She turns around and looks at you to see why you let go. My question to you is....what will she see?
She does not need to see a man standing there doing nothing but pitifully staring back at her or she'll just walk on. If she sees that man has stopped paying any attention to her and has his mind on something else, then she will be curious to see what got his attention more than she could. She will begin to move in a little bit so she can get a closer look. She may start to ask him questions about what he's doing and who he's seeing. She keeps getting a little closer b/c she almost acts as if she's forgotten that she is no longer held by that rope and she can leave. She is free....but she doesn't want to leave now that the man has dropped the rope."
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
