at the risk of overanalyzing....I bet I figured out what was up w/H when he came home so upset Saturday evening (it was the weirdest thing); he may have thought I would jump him because he was 1/2 hour late ( I didn't say a word) which is very likely a part of it...but, my guess is he was either telling OW about his new vehicle or went & saw her with it, and I'll bet SHE jumped his rear-end about it....H & my names are both on the title and the loan, so it would be more complications to sort out if he decides to leave; plus, if he leaves, I think it would be a huge stretch for him to handle the payments by himself/on her salary.
The more I think about it, the more I believe that has to be what happened. I've never been in the habit of saying much about him being just a little late. Boy, he was upset when he came in the door though! If she has done that, it's a great thing for me, because this thing is incredibly important to him (mid-life crisis toy?) and is one of the big problems he's identified in his life/our M, that his vehicle wasnt good enough....
My attitude has been "Ok, I didn't realize that was a problem, but lets see if there is something we can do about it" and then to help him get it taken care of....I've been thinking about the "special as-if attitude" post where it talks about the immediate task being to "quiet down their taker" and thought of this as a way to start to do that, plus meeting some of his emotional needs. I have never said a word to him about having any expectations that this would influence his decision one way or another.
I'm just glad it's done, that "issue" is taken care of for him for now (I'm sure there will be something later) and we can recuperate from the car-shopping experience. It's not an enjoyable thing for me.
I'm kind of surprised his MLC vehicle is a 4wheel drive suv instead of the royal blue 'Vette that was sitting on the showroom floor! Actually, he did talk about getting a 'vette 2 weeks ago, and then made the comment "that would make me a chic magnet and then I'd get in trouble for it"....the more I think about it, this guy really is off the wall and all over the place right now!
