in house S (4)

[vise82]

Hey Fogg,

Thank you for looking into my sit.

Up until this point I have not seen her physically interested in another guy. She was having an EA with a gay guy but it seems that has tapered off. Now it looks like she is looking to fill that void with another man. I felt a lot better before when there was no actual OM. I can see why Sandi said that I do the same DB if there is OM or not because W has the same mind set.

Because of all the work I have done I am in a better place to deal with her looking for OM. I guess its a matter of time before she finds one. I think the wedding has sped that up for her. Instead of hearing the vows and thinking of our MR, she has seen the happiness of her best friend and she is grasping to get that from OM.

We are in house S and its too easy to snoop, this is a time I snooped and found out that she has a crush on the best man.

I can see now that this S will only get worse for me now that its at this point.

She is looking out for herself. There is no mention of the kids when she was talking about OM. She is not thinking about them. Though thats what she tells me: We have to do what's best for the kids.

I wont ask for a second chance. I will use the time I have now to show her that I am a guy she would be crazy to leave. That's how I get my second chance through my actions. I have to do whats best for me and the kids.

Now does anyone know if she will openly reveal that she is looking for a OM or will this be a secrete thing that WW will pursue? The only reason I can think they want to not let the LBS know is to keep him as plan B, enjoy the security of having him around. Is she looking for OM to help her get out of our sit. because money wise its going to be tough to even just pay for the S agreement.

I feel that's a boundary for me, if she has a PA. We have gone almost 6 months with this S and neither of us has had a PA. This was talked about during MC. If she does cross that line I feel like that would be when I would file for D. I realize that is a feeling and feelings change.