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Mutatio, I believe it's all part of the process. At first we fight like hell to keep the M alive, to keep the R with our wives alive, to keep that old connection strong.

Over time though I believe we return to our base needs - to be respected, to be loved in return, to have the energy we put out mirrored back to us in some way. As time goes on and your W stays withdrawn, you are giving and getting nothing back. How can any person be expected to hold that space forever? It's an unbalanced exchange.

I spoke with my cousin's wife last night, she is Italian and therefor completely dismayed at my sitch! She said something very poignant to me though. She told me of ALL of the struggles that she and my cousin have gone through - being poor together, losing jobs, infertility, three miscarriages, the death of my uncle, moving, and now raising two kids together.

She said that through it all they've found reasons to fight to be with each other, reasons to look beyond the current struggle and continue on as a couple. And that until I find a woman who is willing to do that, there's no reason to be in another relationship.

I don't know why our W's have chosen the path they have. No one does. Sure we contributed, sure we made mistakes. As did my cousin. As did his wife. Someone out there will fight to be with us. Someone out there will find reasons to stay as opposed to reasons to leave. We deserve to have someone on this board fighting for us in the ways that we are here fighting for our M's. All of us here do.

Letting faith handle this situation while you heal, grow, and truly develop into the highest expression of Mutatio will take courage beyond what you may have right now. Welcome that challenge because it's going to force you to become more than you are, you are already an extraordinary man simply by your DB'ing and desire to fight for your M against all odds.

Now imagine the man you are going to become.

Stay courageous,

PP