Thanks for your ideas Sotto. I think I like seeing her before after class for the chance we get to talk and keep some limited contact. She doesn't talk much about her life as she knows I don't care about OM. Just hearing her say we is painful enough. I normally keep upbeat and tell her the things I and son do. Show I'm getting a life. Today we will meet. If she talks about wanting more time as a family to see son or me, I was thinking of saying something like this: You'd like to do things as a family, the three of us. I'm sorry but the day you left we stopped being a family. our son saw it quicker than me. You know everything I think and feel about you but now I have to live my life and be there for our son Who knows what the future holds but for now you've gone, you have the new life you wanted and which we can't share with you. We haven't gone, you know where we are. What do you all think?
