I just lost another post here, darn it. so starting over. anyway, I'm thinking I need to back up, regroup rethink and decide how to get back on track from here. I really need anythoughts on where to go next anybody has! H is still obviously angry from my email yesterday, distant and cool this am, responded to ILY but not as "huggy" as usual. This am as we walked out to vehicles, I told him again that I was sorry for yesterdays email, he said "it's ok", and then I told him "I hope you'll be able to forgive me for it sometime", and he responded "I will", so maybe he just needs time to make sure I know how mad he is. I didn't hug or kiss on him, just told him I'd be thinking of him and praying for him. I know his 1st session was going to be very hard and has been weighing on his mind for a couple of days...it was with a mom whose D died in her arms this past Sat., I know those things are tough for H., and that probably makes him even more hypersensitive right now. So, what do I do now? this much I've figured out: --DONT ASK ANYTHING!!!!! I've been wanting to ask for clarification of some things he's said re: not seeing OW, if "it" doesnt work out, etc....have been biting my tongue and need to keep doing it....!!!!! --AVOID R talks (goes w/#1) --Listen & validate....I'm sure he's going to have a hard time w/some work stuff. --Offer physical touch, backrubs, etc....as a comfort measure --get my PMA back up, it's pretty low right now. I don't know what else, anybody got any thoughts? I'm really beat right now, almost feel like I'm coming down w/something and gotta work till at least 9 tonight, so having a hard time here. any input would sure be appreciated. -
