Hi Nitaf, thanks for your post. I read up on your sitch yesterday, but havent got anything posted. I may go over there and ask you a question about sex -- one I posted in my newcomers thread.
Do you think we should have a contest to see who is the Queen of Crazymaking? I assure you, I can give you some stiff competition!
I appreciate your advice. you are so very very right...I recognize that everything you told me is right on target. I gotta get back on track. After your input I can see that maybe his "I know she will always be there if this doesnt work out" could be (a)"whistling in the dark" to reassure himself or (b)more baiting/testing to see if I would jump on it. neither of these possibilities had occured to me before. In either case, I handled it ok, I made absolutely no response to the comment, just let it go, but nodded my head so he would know I heard. H has made a lot of comments this last week that strike fear in to my heart....that he suddenly didnt know about weights because he didnt want to put anything hard to move out into the basement, the "swinging" comment (sex question in newcomers), the comment about not getting a vehicle by himself in case "it" "doesn't work out"....maybe these comments are more testing on his part.....if so, it's really important to follow your advice and walk away before responding. and rehearsing difficult situations, that is a great suggestion to. One suggestion I got from the special-as-if-attitude post was to think of the worst scenarios that could happen in your sitch, and write them down and then write out how you would handle it...that's real similar to your suggestion...I havent done it yet, but think it is a good idea, something I need to do.
