I am 36 and the H is 32 and I believe he is in a midlife crisis. He gave me the speech in April and things settled we did MC for a few weeks. He transitioned out of the military and we moved to a new state. Moved into a nice new place that he picked. A week later he left me and the boys. 4 boys 16,11,7, and 6. He moved into a dorm at school and is now flying helicopters( according to him it has been a lifelong goal). He was brutal ...critizing even the way I hung the damn curtains. He does not love me. I mistreated him all our marriage. He deserves to be happy and his happiness is not with me. I have been focused on me and the boys. Keeping them busy. Making sure their life stays as normal as possible. I am now working days and nights to make ends meet. He says he does not have to support me that I have no drive...It is almost as is he wants me to be on call 24 hrs. I go to a IC and am doing well considering. Planning on a trip in 2 weeks. He is buying guns..4 since he left.. just last weekend he bought s16 a rifle. He spends 600 while I am struggling.
in 2009 he was in Afghanistan ...came home angry had knee surgery in 2011 back surgery in 2012 another knee surgery in 2014(did not work) Gets med retired because of knee this year we move in july to a new state august he starts new school too many issues
I think he is in replay but it is very weird. He comes and stays at my house a few weekends to spend time with the boys but instead spends it wanting to play cards with me. He is happy and no longer wants to be married but he is here every chance he gets. He sleeps on the couch and he still is full of hate for me. It is all confusing. Any input is appreciated
