It's been interesting tonight. I asked H what he decided--he said for me to take S to class, and I could do it the rest of the year, and to heck with him trying to be helpful, he just thought then I could work on the taxes. He said my email was hateful (it's exactly what was here, I cut and pasted it). I told him it wasn't my intent in the email, and I was sorry it came off that way. I told him I love him, and he said "I love you too". I'm glad I asked him what he decided, and let him have that decision.
I am amazed though, he is furiously angry. this is about way more than taking S to class, of course. I have thought about the connection that my alluding to the OW sitch when he's said it's over makes him angry at not being trusted, but that doesnt seem on track...he has never told me it's over between them, for one thing (he's said he wasnt seeing her, but she will always be there if we don't work out), and he has done absolutely nothing to try to help me trust him again. In fact, it seems like he baits me to make sure I don't trust him. weird....I guess if that's the case I need to be really careful to try to avoid the bait.
To me it doesnt seem unreasonable that someone would question a complete turn around of a request from 2 weeks before....
He is so angry, it's unreal. I'm almost betting that OW was pressuring him to be there tonight...and so when I told him I had made arrangements to do it and it wasnt a problem, that put him between the proverbial rock and hard place....maybe she got angry...The more I think about it and the way he's acting, the more I feel like that's it. He acts like he does when he thinks he's really been "chewed out"....and from more of a chewing out than could possibly be construed from my email.
Rotzilla, you mentioned that the email would have been controlling from the standpoint of making him feel guilty. What in the email would have made him feel guilty? stating that he asked me to take him to class and asking him to be upfront? just trying to figure this out.
I didn't see OW when I dropped off S...
Of course, she & H could be still meeting somewhere. Oh well, at this point, I'm too tired to worry about it.
