Hi Scrant, when she complains about your S, I would purely validate. Hold back from wanting to 'point things out.' Have you read the validation cheat sheet? As you have S, and presumably have limited contact, I would base many of your responses on this.
If not doing things as a family is a core boundary for you and you are prepared to 'die on that hill' (I was) then be direct with her. As for the classes, that's up to you. Do the classes help you move forward? If they don't, drop them. If you long for a bit of contact, be wary of that. If you can go along and be (as I think it was Defacto would say) a street walkin' cheetah with napalm in my pocket...then go for it. But if you go for class, I wouldn't use them as a chance to have contact with her, I would use them as a chance to have contact with others, diversify and leave your W standing....not in a mean way - but in an I'm moving forward way. But whether you can carry that off yet, I'm not sure...it's still early days in your sitch and I think that degree of confidence takes time.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
