Your in a limbo state, a real bummer. I haven't experienced that but others on here have and may be able to help you through it. Best I can recall someone saying is you will stay in limbo until your cause a change. Like not inviting to the birthday party. That's a new type of AUBob. Maybe I was wrong about changing your status on FB. Possibly de-friending her and changing your status to "Separated". It shows you moving on with your life and dropping the connection to the past that is gone.
Me:49 W:45 M:19 T:22 EA confirmed and ended 8/2014 S:19,17 D:9,5