My wife just continues to get more upset at me!

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Mike,

We're in the same neck of the woods, if your handle is correct - Minnesota? In a similar situation, too.

My wife just got very unhappy very quickly. I couldn't figure out the hatred coming my way all the time - in the past we argued quite a bit, and never worked on the marriage much. She kept on saying 'I'm just sick of 15 years of crap'... and then I found the messages, that they met up, and it all came together. Getting her to admit to her EA/PA is one thing - watching my wife in the 'fog' of the affair is another. Sounds like your wife is in the fog.

Hang in there. Get a consultation with a divorce lawyer - one that is recommended to you. I did, and got awesome advice, and if the D comes, which it might, I know who I'm going with. What he said led me to wait it out until my wife comes around (which might happen - small changes happening day by day), or she files. Until then, working on myself. Keep on focusing on having awesome conversations with the kids, and make work something you enjoy.