My wife had an affair..

[sandi2]

She hasn't kissed you in ten years, but maybe tells you once a day ILY?

Well, she's reminding me of my own embarrassing behavior, several years ago. I was so sad and unhappy, and I started playing internet games......and like her, starting chatting with the players. At first, any flirty words and I would turn it off, immediately. But then one night I didn't. That's how I met the OM.

So anyway, I accidently found my way to the board and got help. It helped me save my M. We're still together today. There's one key factor, I had the reached the point that I needed to talk to someone. I was ready and willing to at least hear what I needed to get my head clear again. I was such a mess.

We are going to give you tools to help yourself. It's your playbook, okay? So don't be sharing it with her.

So I will also say this, my wife are 2 completely different people.

Well, now she's even more different. This is not the same girl you married.

I love my wife way too much, even now after reading the 37 steps I give her her space. But I gave her space and this happened?

It didn't happen b/c you gave her space. It happened b/c she's wayward.

So I want to make it work we have a ready made family, I'm divorced one time (she did the exact same thing btw)

Please clarify about her doing the same thing.

as I told her, if we are going to do this :WE need to have a better marriage.

I don't necessarily think you have, but sometimes the LBH thinks that if the W stopped the A then it means she's ready to work on the MR. It doesn't. In many cases, she is stalling her H, and the contact with OM has never ended. Even if it ends, she'll go through withdrawal just like being addicted to a drug. It's crazy.

If she does agree to work to save the M, then you will need a very good transparency plan. However, I think that will be a ways off yet. You have other things to learn first.

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