Hi Spiff, thank you. Actually at times our MC does ask me to validate, now that I am thinking about it, but then usually H launches into spew and some of the things he says are just kind of "out there" and H gets so worked up, that's when the MC just nods and lets H wear himself out. He went off about how he doesn't even know if the dog gets fed? And that I use crazy hand gestures? Stuff like that. And if the MC asks H to validate me, he cannot do it, gets it completely wrong, and then the counselor role plays H validating me.
I think my H has been too angry to really participate honestly in counseling, although he seems to have calmed down quite a bit lately so maybe that can change.
