Looking at my previous posts I suppose my question is: How do you deal with a recently separated wife who is living with OM but wants you as a best friend? She seems to struggle to understand that her status has changed in our lives. At least she doesn't show unannounced but the attempts at friendly conversational texts always shake me as they seem to try to keep things as they were before.
Hi Scrant. I can't really offer more in advice as the vets have given you solid advice. All I can say is I can understand where you are coming from.
My .02 is that allowing WW to have friendship with us and have other needs met by OM is providing an open marriage. I think friendly interactions (like neighbor you see occasionally but not close with) with WW is okay, but nothing of a friendship sort. Right now WW needs to see consequences of her actions (she chose to live with OM and have a life with him).
WW will certainly test the friendship aspect as often as they can (mine certainly did). But while they have the best of both worlds, things will remain status quo IMHO.
As others have said, continue to detach and focus on you.
M: 33 W: 30 T: 14 M: 9 S2 BD: May/2015 (w moves into spare bedroom one week later) EA / PA (discovered): June/2015 W moves out (living with OM): Sep/2015
