I think the WAS needs for you to be detached from them and from the outcome. And they can sense true detachment. They have known you for years. They won't come back until they fear you are gone. Is is because of their own lack of self esteem? I don't know. But this seems true to me. Problem is, once we really are detached we might not want them back.
You probably have to be at a point where you could care less whether she even notices your changes.
Someone posted this to me in one of my earlier threads and I never forgot it...
"Open to reconciliation, but not waiting"
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
