Wow, mind is blown 11 (time to shift the tides)

[Uphill]

Pho, you are right. Ultimatums couldn't be further from DB standard and for good reason. It blew up in my face. But for me I needed answers, answers I was not willing to sit on the sideline and wait for. I'm not gonna be OM's water boy. Even though it did not work out the way I had hoped for, I now have direction in life. I felt since day one like I was sitting in limbo. No answers, no idea what to do with my life. Nothing. I now know exactly where I stand and can base my decisions in life on that. In the past, I gotta admit, I made decisions based on too many "what ifs". Not anymore, I have the direction I needed to move along with my life.

It just makes it a little sweeter that things got too real for OM and he kicked her to the side the next day! The day before all I heard was how nice of a guy he is and the have such a connection haha. How did that work out for ya?

XF obviously has been spending all of her time in the wrong ways. I even told her that. She never looked inside herself to see what needed work. She never saw the therapist she so badly needs (I'm not trying to diagnose but she has a history of depression from many childhood events. She went before and stopped, never resumed to get to the roots of the problems. This is exactly how she acted way back then, just not on this scale.) she never took time to reflect on life and where it is leading her. And until she does her life will continue to be toxic. I stood by her side early on in our R, against many peoples suggestion. It was only about 2 months into "us" when it happened before and I felt I had to help her. Nobody else was there to do it so I did and pissed a few people off who told me to run then. The same people remind me of that from time to time and I reply, "if I would have ran back then, I wouldn't have S4 now."

Anyways, she has lots of work to do on herself before she will be able to give herself fully to anybody else. Until then it is just a fake her.