Deb, over the weekend, my H's work called. When he saw it on his cellphone's caller id, he said "work." I said "are you sure it's work?" (He had disguised OW's calls by using his work name, as they are coworkers.) I was so angry with myself for saying that and he let me know I had crossed the line.
Things go so much smoother when I let go of my fears and watch his actions. He told me he had broken off with OW. He then began texting me pictures of himself at work when he worked late so I knew where he was at all times, and had proof. Why didn't I listen to what he was showing me? What an idiot I can be, but it just popped out of my mouth before I had a chance to think.
Don't be a dope like I am. Look for the subtle things, and you will be amply rewarded. Show him you don't trust in him, and he will "punish" you, perhaps even driving him closer to OW again.
It was said in several research books I have read, I think Michele's book also says it (?) a woman needs intimacy and to be cherished in order to feel loved, a man needs to be trusted and needed to feel loved.
