Wayward Wife, my addiction, advice needed

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Thanks, Cadet.

Wife is very resistant to giving me any information - for example, we're now going to meet with our pastor for a counseling session. He's done marriage retreats all over the US, so I trust him to get us on the right track. He texts me that we should meet. I tell the wife, did Pastor talk with you? All I get is kickback, and then comes over a half hour later, saying she didn't 'talk' with him, she texted him, and that she doesn't know if we're meeting up with him anytime soon. The crafting of the narrative is tough for me to listen to - she is struggling with the pain and guilt over the PA and EA, but is still in the fog from what I can tell. She did say that she'll give it ago until after the holidays, for whatever good that does.