It is all too real. Be the best you can for your kids. That will help.

As for her, be too busy for her, don't give her details of your life, be happy and playful when you see her. Honestly, I made all those mistakes and non of them helped. Your best chances are to implement Sandi's rules as you can.

Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2
M - 8/2008
W is not happy - 1/2014
W wants D - 9/2014
W moved out - 11/2014
D filed - 1/23/2015
D'ed - 2/25/2015
Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015