Hi Rottz, thanks for the input. I don't know what I'd do with out it. I feel in my heart like H is really making a big concious effort to work on the M, and I'm sure it's hard for him, unfortunately for me he sees OW as much more than just a fling.
I surprised at how scared I am....that just strikes me as really weird.
trust him to do the right thing....It does seem like he's heading in that direction, in his own time frame and route...