As long as OM is still in contact any R talk is pointless. And that is what you need to say to her when she wants to talk about R. Think about your views on being in an open marriage. How long will you stay in an open marriage?
Me:49 W:45 M:19 T:22 EA confirmed and ended 8/2014 S:19,17 D:9,5
She tells me they are only talking about sports or work as if they are just friends.
Please tell me you are so naïve as to believe that ^^.
I do not beleive a word she says.
AND
I am working my way through the NMMNG but im a slow reader so its going slowly.
Im still trying to figure out what I should be saying to my W when she asks about seperating shes suggesting for a week or 2 and thay maybe we could alterbate being at the house with S1. I just keep saying i dont know how that will work.
M30 - W29 - S1.5 EA/PA Confirmed - Oct 30, 2015 Confronted W about the A - Nov 1, 2015 W asked for seperation - Nov 22, 2015 W moves out of house - Jan 3rd, 2016
She tells me they are only talking about sports or work as if they are just friends.
Please tell me you are so naïve as to believe that ^^.
I do not beleive a word she says.
AND
I am working my way through the NMMNG but im a slow reader so its going slowly.
Im still trying to figure out what I should be saying to my W when she asks about seperating shes suggesting for a week or 2 and thay maybe we could alterbate being at the house with S1. I just keep saying i dont know how that will work.
If she brings up separation you can tell her, it's not want you want but if that is what she needs then it's her decision. But do not agree to move out, even for a little bit. Or to go out for the evening if she wants to be alone. It's your house, it's where you live. If she wants alone time then it's she who must leave.
Me:49 W:45 M:19 T:22 EA confirmed and ended 8/2014 S:19,17 D:9,5
Im still trying to figure out what I should be saying to my W when she asks about seperating shes suggesting for a week or 2 and thay maybe we could alterbate being at the house with S1. I just keep saying i dont know how that will work.
She's lying. It won't be for just a week or two. And alternating staying in the house? Terrible! If she can't stay in the MR for S1, don't cater to her wishes about alternating the living arrangements. She is wayward. She just wants to cake eat.
Tell her you will not leave the home. Be prepared for her to pull the guilt card and talk about you not caring about S1, yada, yada, yada. Stand firm and do not let her work on your nice-guy tendencies. Tell her this is not negotiable.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Thanks all i will tell W that i will not leave the house if she brings up time apart again... she wants the time apart she can figure out how to get it.
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M30 - W29 - S1.5 EA/PA Confirmed - Oct 30, 2015 Confronted W about the A - Nov 1, 2015 W asked for seperation - Nov 22, 2015 W moves out of house - Jan 3rd, 2016
heard this cake eat used a couple times what exactly does this mean?
M30 - W29 - S1.5 EA/PA Confirmed - Oct 30, 2015 Confronted W about the A - Nov 1, 2015 W asked for seperation - Nov 22, 2015 W moves out of house - Jan 3rd, 2016
Cake-eating is referenced from Marie Antionette, I think, where she famously said the starving French people could have cake to eat but food was usually not edible so they couldn't eat it. But not for Marie she could have cake AND eat it. Meaning your W wants to have you and the girls submissive to her while having the OM for her other wants.
Me:49 W:45 M:19 T:22 EA confirmed and ended 8/2014 S:19,17 D:9,5
