Need Help

[AU Bob]

Thanks so much Sandi.
I was waiting for your words of wisdom. When it all started to come about I was lost, like you said they are a different person completely. I take some of the blame for it, because of my behaviour, mostly it was bitterness bought on by lack of time together, I used to bitch about it all the time, as a consequence of this I showed a misguided lack of support. I also used to make comments about her health and weight. I have to admit that some of the criticism was how she looked but mostly it was about the pain she constantly complained of because of her rheumatoid arthritis, the extra weight made it worse, now she has lost the weight she is relatively pain free.
So im not laying all the blame on her, I sort of understand why she left, but it was a two way street, she didn't support me in a lot of things and she used to make comments about my weight too, and did not hesitate to criticise me sometimes as well.
But I didn't walk! and I was willing to try to save our Marriage, its just the EA. PA? sealed my fate. I could not suffer that and it showed, she must have thought I am pathetic and that was it, she left!