6 months in the storm

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I need some help with whether I follow-up with STBXH again or leave it be and see what happens…

Two weeks ago I approached him about S4 and I leaving Tuesday night, for our trip to my Grandmother’s for Thanksgiving, instead of Wednesday morning. It is a 10 hour drive so I want to break it up into two drives. He immediately said no without thinking about it because he would be giving up an overnight stay. He was in a confrontational mood so I dropped it. The next Wednesday I asked him to reconsider letting us break up the trip and I would swap nights with him so he still had an overnight. We won’t be leaving until 8:00 at night so he would still get him all day and for dinner. He said he would think about it. So I asked him on Saturday if he had thought about it, the answer was no he had not thought about it at all.

So I have now broached the subject 3 times. How long do I let him “think” about it before asking again? Too much pressure I know the answer will be a flat ‘no’. I do need to know a little in advance to get a hotel room half way and to let my Dad and Grandmother know when we are arriving. I am trying not to let my Type A personality control how long he has to think. I am a planner and want all my ducks in a row when traveling. If I do bring it up again I am not sure how to go about it. I don’t know if I can wait until the day before to see if he brings it up, should I?