H has started an affair 2

[Sotto]

Hi Anna, that sounds fair enough to me in all the circumstances. Now, I think your focus needs to be on formalising arrangements for your own surety and on encouraging him to maintain contact with the kids. Have a think about how this can best work in your and their interests. For your own peace of mind - now that he's moved out, are you happy for him having a key? What are the arrangements regarding funds? Time with the kids? and so on. I agree with Twin about a formal S agreement as you can't rely on 'goodwill' in these situations.

I understand your fear - but truly, he had gone in heart (at least for now) anyway. In the longer term, who knows? But focus on you, your family and your best interests. Be compassionate and reasonable, but firm.

This too shall pass and all will ultimately be well my friend xx