Wow, I a lot has happened since I was last checked in. So sorry that happened, you seem to be coming out the other side already. I love your list of 30!
You have grown so much over the past year. You are an amazing dad and a loving, caring person. When I first started this process one of the resources I listened to/read talked about trusting/focusing on the process, not the outcome(saving your marriage). He said not all marriages can be saved for various reasons, but doing certain things (many similar to DB) will increase your chances 100% over doing nothing at all. You did a great job with the process, still are. I'm not going to say that I'd rather be where you are, however, I do wish I would have done a better job with the process. My marriage may be intact, but it is far from saved. I did an ok job with the process on the surface, you really took the process to heart and are living it now. So you weren't as detached as you thought or wanted to be, that is easier said than done. But you truly made the changes you wanted to see in yourself and are living it now, keep it going moving forward, your xw truly is the fool.
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Me-44 (45) H- 50 (51) M-'96
S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)
BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas) home Oct(sep rooms) (EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed) insists wants D through July 2015 no more talk of D since
