Unfortunately I love reading your posts because it comes out straight, hardcore. As all here, I wish I were reading something else.
My question to your comments is how do you know when your W does want back really. Most cases I read about here are extreme obvious situations where W fully acknowledges say she has OM, goes out at night, texts OM in front of H etc.
What happens when things arent so clear. When W was caught out, did apologize, showing remorse does not go out at night, does not text (at least blatantly) OM and when she is texting infront of H mentions to who, spends rest of time in places where there is no doubt she is not with OM, does initiate conversations and in general act like a W. How then do you know if she has gone deeper underground or is trying to make it work?
In my case it is similar to above, hence examples, but yet other night I saw her coming out of gim with OM just talking and for about 100m. They then departed. When I confronted her she said they were just talking because she found out his wife has the big C. I told her when sh1t hit the fan months back NC meant NC. It took her a while and some serious discussion to understand she hurt my feelings and that trust was damaged.
She has promised never to speak to him again and even went on her knees (literally) to say sorry for what she has done. I threw out some of her stuff from the MBR and cut off her data line from her phone as per your rules.
She has vowed to work on our M as she wants a M life. Question is is she really remorseful? Does one still treat W like this as a WW? Does one detach and let her do all the work or begin piecing?
Sorry for hijacking but sometimes I find situations are not always so clear cut or black and white but often with lots of shades of grey.
