So I packed up H's clothes in bags.
H has been out all night last week and when he came in the morning, he looked like he took a shower, which really stung. It's not like before, when H showed up looking like he slept in the car.
H came home tonight after work. I was not expecting him, but he saw the bags and knew what it meant right away. H said he doesn't have another place to live. I told him I had thought he definitely have one since he stayed out all night last week and all weekend. I told H I'm not doing this to punish him but for my peace of mind because I don't want him to be so obvious and disrespectful. H said he understands and he is not mad.

H also apologized again about Friday. I told him I know I can't change him and I'm not trying to, the only thing I can do is choose ( what I want to have for my life and kids') H said he came to see the kids tonight and he cares about the kids all the time. I told him I know that and I'm not trying to take them away from H because kids love him too, but right now, what H says and what he shows in action don't awl ways add up. I told him he has time, energy and money for himself to go out, go to the movies, go camping or go to Disneyland (with OW), but he has done none of it for kids lately which tells me kids are not his priority right now, it's himself. I also told him that H sits them down in front of tv so that he can text or call OW all day does not tell me H wants to be with the kids.

H told me kids don't want to be with him when I'm around (because they prefer mommy) , so I said that's not true. I told H whenever I take kids out, D3 tells me "it was fun, are we coming back next time with daddy too?"
Tonight H was more engaged with kids instead of just lying down in another room.

I said all this calmly and we didn't get in to argument, but maybe I should have stuck to the facts only....

So off he went. H said don't worry I'll have somewhere to stay. He just took clothes and one of the TVs (??)
I mean, he will still come babysit on all weekdays( neither of us can afford to hire all day sitter right now) so I will still see him and he stays out most of the nights anywys, so it might not be too much of a difference. But it feels official and I do feel sad. I'm not sure if I did the right thing. But at the same time I feel a little better knowing I stood up for myself really the first time. I think I got to show him my boundaries and I can not tolerate any more disrespect.

I'm very scared. But I really had no choice. I will just have to see how things will go.