Maybell XXXVII: Unpacking

[KGirl]

Crawling out of the woodwork for the online dating conversation...

MB, are you really ready to date? Or is this more of a "let's sign up for this site and keep it just online/regain some confidence because people are interested in me" sort of thing? I did that second one for a month or so before my D was final but then didn't feel quite right needing to explain to people I was still M, so decided to deactivate and hold out for when I really felt I could reply wholeheartedly (and less awkwardly).

But maybe you are ready, I dunno.. if so, woohoo! Let the fun begin I agree w/ mozza in that if you're not interested it's better just to not answer at all - you're going to get so many messages it'd be impossible to keep up. If you are interested, keep the online convo to a minimum before meeting up. You could spend weeks chatting with someone online and it's great and then be totally turned off by something in-person within the first five minutes, so getting the in-person meeting set up relatively quickly is helpful. And, I think it's good to be upfront about your situation, if it's not already in your profile. There are ways to work it in.. "Sorry, I've been a little slow at responding lately, I was a bit busy with some paperwork. I'm actually in the process of getting divorced as we're still finishing up some of the legal items." Or "do you have kids? I have three. They live with me most of the time, though...their father and I are still working out the legalities of that." I'm assuming kids comes up when you're at the kid-having age during online dating..?

Going back to being ready... my opinion is that if it's not yet "just about the paperwork", dating is going to be tough. With some of your posts in this thread, I wonder. Regardless, be honest and upfront and if you do meet up with someone make sure you're 100% focused on them I found a 6' 4'' guy online.. the tall ones are out there!