Hey Sandi,

I stopped going when my W wanted to S but Still wanted me to go. I did go a couple of times but then I stopped going as I didn't want to be S but still doing the same thing as though we weren't S.

But if she asked me today if I was going to be there for Christmas I think I would go. I don't want to ruin Christmas for my kids when they don't know we are S.

Just finished Nomore MR Nice guy. The first half I seen my W in it, and the second half I could see myself in it. Also I could see in the beginning of our relationship I put my W last and at the last 5 years it changed and I put her before everything.

I have some work to do on me. I can see now why my W says that I try to make it sound like I am perfect and everyone else is the problem. Just have to see what changes are needed.

My W was a project and I was settling with her. All stuff in the book.

I am not perfect and I am going to have to start showing people that.


Me late 30's
W mid 30's
T 15, M 10
S4, S7
ILYBNILWY June 2015
In house S July 2015
W rings off Oct 2015
My ring off Feb 2015
Separate houses June 2016