Fight over. He called me, we "talked" it out, emotionally, but it went better than our disagreements in the past, I am hoping when he gets home tonight at midnight he will not be holding a grudge. Stupid argument about FB but also made me realize that we are nowhere near ready for R, and that H is still harboring a lot of anger and still has a strong need to "be right". I am back in STFU mode.

What I said- I had blocked him because he had deactivated his account, which changed my R status from married to unknown, and he had taken down all pics of me. I blocked him because this was distracting me and I didn't want to go on FB 10x per day to see if he had activated his account yet and what his relationship status was, thought it would be healthier for me to just not look.

He said he has a right to control his image on FB and what pics are posted and he was hurt that I blocked him without discussing it with him. I said we were not capable of discussing things at that point, and now that he is back on FB I unblocked him. I said too much, revealed too much hurt, he revealed anger and surprisingly now that I am writing up my post I am realizing that he was hurt that I blocked him, so that reveals feelings on his part, doesn't it? Apparently he had googled about the deactivated account changing marital status and said it doesn't do that and I had to do that manually, so apparently that bothered him.

So he does have feelings.

But, and this I will not and can not bring up to him, the woman he accused me for months of being insanely jealous of is featured in a pic on his timeline, they went to a show together (with her husband too) a few months ago and there is a picture of them hugging but he has taken down all pics of me. Apparently he is asserting his "right" to have female friends and this is still an issue as he selectively left that pic in and took down anything with me. I will not say a word but I think he is clearly still in self-centered mode.

I hate FB right now and I hate texting because this conversation would have gone better in person. I am going to go right now and change my relationship status back to married. That is good, right?