Triangulation (Differences between WAHs and WAWs 4

[JulieH]

Went out last night with a group of vey uninhibited and unconventional friends who are all very comfortable in their own skins and just a lot of fun. i myself have not been comfortable in my own skin for a while. I often worry, "I'm too old to be doing this, or I'm going to look ridiculous" but I started to come out of this mind set and just had fun. Before settling down with husband , I was like this. I didn't care about what others thought or about being "proper and professional". I just had fun and did what I wanted. When I got married I became boring. I put myself into this role of sweet and conservative wife, staying at home and making it all about the kids to the point it wasn't healthy even for them. Really, I needed to loosen up a bit instead of following the paths of my 2 very conservative (not politically) parents. This had nothing to do with my husband. He was and is not controlling at all and would have supported me. It was a role I put myself into and tried to put him into as well. And we both were miserable and had no fun.

So I think that's my journey...to have fun in the present, embrace good times instead of focusing on the misery, and stop worrying so much. I will see this separation as a way to get myself back.

I am trying to get away from the anger by committing to these thoughts...

Husband does not owe it to me to love and be with me forever. He has the right to say he is unhappy and want out. He is not the only man out there. We both played a role in the demise of our relationship.