Answer to: "why didn't you hear it from ME?"

[Flight]

As for whether I am done or not, let's say I am proceeding as if I am done. I have no reason to believe from her actions that she will ever come out of the fog. Unless she suddenly takes full responsibility for her actions and shows true regret, gets what she will have to do in herself to fix her character/sense of entitlement/world view, there is no way to have a healthy relationship. I certainly won't accept, "Ok, for our daugthers sake, I will give this one more try"

So I am fully "selfish" now as she loves to constanly throw at me, and unapologetically so. She deserves nothing from me. I need to do what I need to do for myself to stand alone and take care of my daughter. So I have to focus on financial issues and my other goals for the future. This is firm, not bitter. I will continue to be cordial to her, even smile or chit chat if she wants to talk, but in general, I will treat her like a boarder or roommate.