Hi Ripe, I think it was a nice thing for the kids that you went to their now place. Sounded like that meant a lot for you to see their rooms and so on.

I think you did well, and for your W, the perceptions of the kids are one of the consequences of the choice she made.

I was out for dinner with a friend last night. She decided to leave her first H when the kids were pretty young. Her oldest is now almost 30, and she said to me that she still feels guilt for what she did and wonders if she could have been stronger and stuck with it. It's a shame I think, and your W may also feel like this - now and in the much longer term...

Take care x

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus