Mona, the mutual hatred H and I share right now makes NC super easy. But I admit I think about him all the time. The last time you DB'd...when H was with OW in another state...did you guys just stay in contact because of your children?
I am trusting that my moving away and working on myself for now is the best thing I can do to DB. I don't like it, but it's what needs to happen. I've learned so much about codependency, and realize how needy and helpless I've become. Fixing that. I need to let H feel my absence and realize just how much he messed up our family. Me telling him about it just makes him defiant.
I will be going completely dark, in effect. No one on the boards is doing that. I don't know what to do. I'm curious about your experiences, and what you remember from being here before. I'm not afraid of being legally D. I don't like that, either - but there's lots about this sitch that makes me unhappy.
Am I looking too far ahead? I guess I just want to be reassured all hope is not lost just because I've accepted we need to go our separate ways for now. What do you think?
