Well, that wasn't what I was looking for but it all happened in a calm fashion. I kinda expected this to happen but was hoping for the best. She is already to "into" the new guy and doesn't want to let him down. Haha I don't know how that happens in a matter of about 2 months but it is what it is. I responded to that calmly that you are so worried about him that you are not worried at all about the years and years we have been together or letting me down? Our family? Our home? This clown is that special that you will throw all that away for a player?

During the convo she did rewrite history a bit. I didn't hold back there. I didn't yell, but in a calm way called her out on every false accusation she tried to make against me or anybody else. Held her accountable for her part in all of this. She was trying to push all the blame on me and I just wasn't going to take it after hearing her answer. I let her know that after S4 was born she started drifting. She tried to spin that on me. I explained to her that I understand I did. Now I do. But it was all due to how I was being treated. I distanced myself in my own home because I didn't feel welcome. I felt second best. Which I am not saying is wrong, S4 deserved her attention! But I also needed some.

Overall it was a long overdue conversation. It gives me direction in life. I can stand here with broad shoulders and say I tried everything I physically could handle. I didn't give up. I stood tall and was willing. She wasn't.


Me 34, XF 27
Many years together
Son 4
Engaged
Not engaged
Many false starts by XF
7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life
2/17 girlfriend moves in my home