I was doing some research on selfishness in a marriage and I came across this Selfishness is one of the major obstacles to marital communication and thereby harms the marital friendship. This personality conflict results in a spouse manifesting a number of weaknesses including failing to listen, trying to dominate the conversation, failing to respect and appreciate the views of one's spouse, speaking in a critical and angry manner and competing verbally.
This describes STBXH to a T. I'm beginning to question how I could be so blind or naive to this for so long. My blindness and his selfishness was ruining our marriage and neither of us did anything about it. I am not blind anymore and it has helped me DB through this. I am working on me everyday. Will he ever want to work on himself?
I have a voice now and won't let him dominate what I do or say. I Am doing what is best for me and for S4. I make my decisions based on that. I will continue to show him compassion and appreciate him for being there for S4.
Ep, how much of my thread have you ever read? If you have time on your hands, go back to when I was RPPFL. Especially read posts by Labug and Underdog. I think you'll find it eye opening.
