V I am so sorry to hear this has been your experience.
You are well versed in your safety plan and a lawyers intervention is required as you said. I am not sure if this behaviour would meet a threshold for a breach of your order. It definitely would here in NZ and warrant at the least a conversation between himself and police officer.
The hyper-vigilence and re-triggering this type of behaviour creates is so unsettling for the mind and soul. I appreciate fully the level of fear this behaviour likely creates in you. My mother, myself and siblings experienced similar outbursts from my father and his friends. Building your sense of safety and personal control of it, will take some time. But not beyond the power of V and her higher power.
I hope you find some solace and safety here in the DB community. We love you so very much.
You have been an anchor point for me so many time. Given me perspective when I have needed it, and sign posts and light to a pathway to self love. The road had been very dark V. I followed that beautiful Vanilla scent. And look where I am. LOL
I know it is not my place, but I have strong personal investment in your happiness and freedom from where you are now. I know your faith is strong too V that with all things, this too shall pass.